Is it our tradition or convention for the women to let their men choose their way and style of life?
Is giving up our personal space a good way to show that we love someone?
Is dressing up and changing mannerisms accordingly going to improve relationships?
Though these could be very interesting and romantic in the beginning, some women feel the total lack of personal space and the loss of individuality.
To my opinion, most marriages running into troubles have the women complaining about lack of personal space and an inability to take decisions.
Are the men to be blamed completely for dominating their spouses or women to be equally blamed for giving up on their individuality for the sake of romance?
On the other hand marriages also seem to fall into trouble when one has strong boundaries for personal space and strong sense of individual likes and dislikes.
Needles to say that there needs to be a balance between the two to be compatible partners.
Note the word "balance" - a precarious term to be used very very subjectively.
But how do we all describe this balance? How much of being unbending as well as adjusting is compromise?
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Hi ,That was a very interesting topic and feel completely in the group and can relate to it,we will really have to relate to our very own parenting method where as a mother of a female child ,parent creates a dependency factor which could as time goes by develop into a unconditional sacrifice which infact 1.creates a feeling of lack of induviuality and lack of personal space.This discussion has prompted me to goin for another question ...
ARE ALL MEN LOYAL TO THEIR SPOUSES ???
I've read that 99% of men get bored with their partners after few years of marriage,after which some choose to stay independent whereas few choose to look for a companion(a secret partner) and not only that but prefer a married women.This is absured but.....
Discuss?!?!?!
That was well said Kadam about a parent fostering dependency on their single child. I would go with that a 100%.
Most parents I feel attain a kinda vicarious satisfaction through attaining and achieving things, that they never could, through their children.
As far as partners are concerned - I can only say that both men and women can bored of their spouses within no time if they don't take efforts to make life interesting.
what i feel is, this lack of interest & searching another person is due to "expectations" from both sides.when partners are unable to bring each other to their expectations. They feel bored to live & gradually there is no space for romance in them.
That was well said Dare Devil... expectation that are unreal can be very very disastrous to a relationship.
Accepting the other just the way they are is the key.But we should always motivate the other to improve each other's personality so we don't stagnate and let our partner stagnate too in the name of acceptance.
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